I often tell my mom, 'Mama, mera dil karta hai k mai apki beti nahi, behen ya dost hoti takay ap ka khyal rakh sakti jab ap ko zaroorat thi,' which means 'Mom, I wish I was not your daughter; I wish I was your friend or sister so I could have taken care of you when you needed it the most.' I agree with everything you said above. My father doesn’t deserve my mother, but after learning about my father’s childhood, I have started to develop a soft corner for him too. I don’t complain that he could never be a good father, but I wish he was a good husband, a good human being. All I can do is wish!